Maps of Meaning #3

Discussion thread for 2017 Maps of Meaning - Lecture #3

study group discussions

Discussion as part of our Study Group.


my notes

  • 15:00 - don’t avoid small problems because you know they are there - FACE THEM - because otherwise they will grow into big problems all by themselves - as a long term strategy avoiding problems is abysmal - it seems likely in people high in neuroticism and agreeableness - these people are hit harder per unit of uncertainty or threat

  • 17:00 - negotiation - if you want something, have 5 arguments for why you want it, and 5 arguments against - because that will wean out what you really want and provide the resilience against adversaries

  • 19:00 - don’t practice what you do not want to become - because it will punish the good patterns and reward the bad patterns - making the good patterns weaker and the bad patterns stronger - and this is incredibly difficult to change

  • 24:00 - sitting at a desk for 6 hours destroys the play circuits in your brain

  • 43:00 - psychopaths

  • 46:00 - do you conform to virtues because you are good or because you are afraid of punishment, if the latter, in opportunities to do bad, you will do bad

  • 53:00 - predator sights, protecting kids

  • 56:00 - overprotective mothers, they don’t have friends, so the child becomes the friend - Freudian Oedipal situation - - perhaps

  • 1:04:00 - to change yourself, you must take aspects that you don’t like from the shadows

  • 1:06:00 - the temptation in the social world is to be exactly all that your peers want you to be

  • 1:07:00 - playing games is the best way to discover and mature and hone the darker parts of yourself so outside the games you can use them appropriately

  • 1:08:00 - how to ask for a raise

  • 1:21:30 - sycophant, obsequiously

  • 1:37:00 - how a society can become brainwashed in their fragmented convictions

  • 1:57:00 - ask yourself “why/when would you betray someone?” - and follow that question down so many iterations until you find the ultimate reason

  • 1:57:30 - if you are not a monster, then you cannot negotiate, but if you got that under control, then you don’t have to be a monster

  • 1:58:40 - what you most need to know will be hidden in the place you least want to look - because it will be the only place you haven’t accessed yet

  • 1:59:00 - do not do anything for anyone which they can do themselves - all you do is steal it from them

  • 2:17:00 - female mate selection