Discussion thread for 2017 Maps of Meaning - Lecture #3
study group discussions
Discussion as part of our Study Group.
https://discuss.bevry.me/t/2017-02-10-maps-of-meaning-3/274
https://discuss.bevry.me/t/2017-12-16-bible-3-meaning-3/231
Discussion thread for 2017 Maps of Meaning - Lecture #3
Discussion as part of our Study Group.
https://discuss.bevry.me/t/2017-02-10-maps-of-meaning-3/274
https://discuss.bevry.me/t/2017-12-16-bible-3-meaning-3/231
15:00 - don’t avoid small problems because you know they are there - FACE THEM - because otherwise they will grow into big problems all by themselves - as a long term strategy avoiding problems is abysmal - it seems likely in people high in neuroticism and agreeableness - these people are hit harder per unit of uncertainty or threat
17:00 - negotiation - if you want something, have 5 arguments for why you want it, and 5 arguments against - because that will wean out what you really want and provide the resilience against adversaries
19:00 - don’t practice what you do not want to become - because it will punish the good patterns and reward the bad patterns - making the good patterns weaker and the bad patterns stronger - and this is incredibly difficult to change
24:00 - sitting at a desk for 6 hours destroys the play circuits in your brain
43:00 - psychopaths
46:00 - do you conform to virtues because you are good or because you are afraid of punishment, if the latter, in opportunities to do bad, you will do bad
53:00 - predator sights, protecting kids
56:00 - overprotective mothers, they don’t have friends, so the child becomes the friend - Freudian Oedipal situation - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tsst - perhaps http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109508/?ref_=nv_sr_2
1:04:00 - to change yourself, you must take aspects that you don’t like from the shadows
1:06:00 - the temptation in the social world is to be exactly all that your peers want you to be
1:07:00 - playing games is the best way to discover and mature and hone the darker parts of yourself so outside the games you can use them appropriately
1:08:00 - how to ask for a raise
1:21:30 - sycophant, obsequiously
1:37:00 - how a society can become brainwashed in their fragmented convictions
1:57:00 - ask yourself “why/when would you betray someone?” - and follow that question down so many iterations until you find the ultimate reason
1:57:30 - if you are not a monster, then you cannot negotiate, but if you got that under control, then you don’t have to be a monster
1:58:40 - what you most need to know will be hidden in the place you least want to look - because it will be the only place you haven’t accessed yet
1:59:00 - do not do anything for anyone which they can do themselves - all you do is steal it from them
2:17:00 - female mate selection