2017-05-20: Maps of Meaning #11


discussion notes

  • You should turn into a monster, but voluntarily, with the good in mind

    • Not be timid and naive - predators go after timid victims
  • Encountering malevolence

    • Personal stories

    • Naivety - not a broad enough term?

    • You don’t have any space in your map of the world for that malevolence

    • What could you do about it?

      • Look for signs before - sometimes there are no signs of malevolence before it reveals itself

      • Handle the situation - not be too timid, use the tools you do have instead of expecting someone else to solve the situation for you

    • Make people braver - not less afraid

  • You don’t keep the snakes away from your children - you give your children tools to chop up the snake and make the world out if it

    • Difference between Australia and Sweden: Sweden seems to be more afraid of letting children experience distress (e.g. “hate” on the internet). In Australia, parents less concerned and give their children an ipad.

    • Taking responsibility as an adult - can be a large step from being a child

      • Some might handle it by doing all the irresponsible things one can think of and some might be terrified of the responsibility

      • Letting children practice taking responsibility

  • Some people want to hide behind an authoritative person or entity that is providing them with protection. They don’t want to accept the realisation that you are the person who knows best what you should do (frightening, because what do you know?)

    • You can’t stand up to the person who is providing you with protection, because you don’t want to lose that protection.

    • When people are becoming less afraid, they start standing up to people in a way they never expected

    • Connected to agreeableness? Afraid of social consequences - want people to like you.

    • Mentioned by Peterson in this video: Make sure you have alternatives if you want to be able to express views that others might not accept (in the context of work, but could be applied to friendships as well)

      • These discussions can help with that → dare to express views in other contexts, as one knows that there are people who will accept one’s views
  • Safe spaces